My web designer, Tunde would be having his introduction next week. Funny thing was I never knew he was really courting some girl. All I knew was that they were dating – more like boyfriend-girlfriend thingy. So, I was apparently shocked when he sent his invitation of introduction after dating the lady for six months.
Hmmn… Six months dating and now introduction! Interesting!
To further add to the ramblings and thoughts in my head, I was gisting with one of my girlfriends (not ‘the girlfriend’) Tade and while I mentioned Tunde’s issue and how concerned I was at the speed of getting engaged, she laughed it off and added that her sister dated and courted the husband for three months before they got married! I was like, what the heck?
This usually forms an interesting angle on dating and romance in our world today. I am a traditional person who believes so much in courting for some specific number of years before popping the question!
Ask me why?
Okay, thanks for asking!
I would base my argument on understanding and knowing each other!
I honestly disagree beyond all sort of human reasoning that 3-6 months is enough to understand your partner to the point of popping the marriage question. Do not term this as myopic, as I am more traditional than reasonable, but truth be told, how can someone claim to understand his girlfriend enough to want to marry her after dating for just three months?
I believe most cases, it’s usually an issue of desperation, peer and parents’ pressure, or the fallacy of age and aging that would make someone decide on such decision. Don’t crucify me yet, as I am a traditional African man.
Let me add a twist,
Research has shown that couples that dated more than two years have less highly tendencies of having a divorce in their marriage! Na research oh Mbok! Anyway, to some reasonable extent, I tend to agree with whoever made the research!
Being together for a while establish a certain level of friendship and connection! It takes sometime to understand a man/ lady enough to want to spend the rest of your lives with him/ her. Hmmmmn!!!
Hey guys relax before you vent your thoughts; I would not say there are guidelines or formula regarding how long to date/ court a lady before marriage since you are your decision, I’d only say for obvious and apparent reasons 1-3 years should be ‘reasonable’ enough to engage a lady, and not 3-6 months.
What do you guys think? 3-6 months would work for you to marry your man or woman shey?
Let me have your thoughts and comments!
Yours In Love
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