Relationship Counselor, Omobolanle Awoyemi shared her thoughts on Nigerian ladies being worried about seeing no blood on their first s*xual experience. Read her post below:
I get messages from girls being worried on seeing no blood on her first s*xual experience. Just recently, two ladies whose permission I have to write about this told me how they battled with guilty feelings about their virginity because neither of them bled when they had s*x for the first time.
You see, there is a common misconception that every s*xually inactive woman must bleed on her first s*xual experience. This misconception has been carried on from generations to generations and have become a factoid. Older women have used this to welcome young women into womanhood and yet shamed, ridiculed those who didn’t.
How many more people especially young women have been made to believe this myth and have become depressed as a result of not seeing the ‘golden’ blood, especially women who abstained from s*x all their life??
Young women are also looking forward to this ‘golden blood’ and get disappointed should they not see their ‘welcome to womanhood’ sign.
Many men on the other hand are not helping matters as they constantly blackmail their woman against being a virgin even though they know that she had not being s*xually active in the past. Another young lady who recently got married also came crying to me that her hubby thinks she lied about being a virgin.
The good news is that there is nothing wrong with a woman if she doesn’t notice any blood the first time she has s*x. Not all women bleed when they have vaginal intercourse for the first time.
No Two Hymens Are Alike.
Female babies are born with different amounts of hymen that cover part of the vagina.
The hymen is a tissue that’s filled with blood vessels that typically covers part of the vaginal opening.
Some girls have a thick hymen or a hymen that covers a lot of the vaginal opening. Other girls have a very thin hymen or a hymen that covers very little of the vaginal opening.
As young girls grow up into full grown women, some of the hymen may wear away gradually over time, and they would never even know it.
There are many things that may help to wear away the hymen over time, including certain activities such as gymnastics or horseback riding, as well as using a tampon, fingering oneself during masturbation, or being fingered by a partner during s*x play or foreplay.
Let It Bleed – Or Not.
When a woman first has s*x, she may notice lots of bleeding, only small amounts of bleeding, or no bleeding at all; these are three possibilities, thus, whether or not a woman bleeds when she first has s*x has nothing to do with her virginity.
Bleeding during s*x is also not a sign of being healthy or unhealthy; it’s just a reflection of how much hymen tissue a woman has, which varies from woman to woman.
Of course, if you have concerns about your s*xual or reproductive health, it’s always a good idea to see your doctor, especially when you become s*xually active with a partner. But rest assured that it’s okay to bleed when you first have s*x – and it’s also okay NOT to bleed when you first have s*x.
Don’t kill yourself looking for blood.