An Igbo lady, Emmanuella has taken to her Facebook to state how patriarchy and misogyny live in a lot of Igbo men. Read her post below and let us know your thoughts:
These days, I avoid a whole lot of Igbo men.
If I am to hangout with a guy and he’s Igbo, chances are that I will give him flimsy excuses why I wouldn’t make it.
Sorry to say this but Patriarchy and Misogyny resides in a higher percentage on Igbo men than other tribes.
Please, this is coming from MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE before you quote me.
Imagine asking a male Igbo Colleague to please help me get a glass of water. Guy was already standing by the water dispenser. Guy says he’s a Traditional Igbo man with Chieftaincy Title. A woman cannot send him message. 🙄🙄
Majority of the times, I avoid certain conversations with Igbo men. They must always play that Patriarchial card.
Another one once told me it’s not the duty of his wife to LOVE him…but to RESPECT him.🙄🙄
The way they carry this respect thing on their head eh…
Another one told me that beating a woman is for corrective measures. To correct her so that next time, she won’t repeat whatever she must have done wrong.
Now these men are not less than 35 years old on the Average.
I meet people regularly, guys to be precise…so I know what I am saying. This is coming from my personal statistics.
Most of the Igbo guys end up pissing me off.
I vow not to see them again. 😬😬
One also once told me that no matter how hard a woman tries to convince the man otherwise, the final decision on Certain Issues still rests on the man. He has the final say.
Their mentality when it comes to man and wife is disturbing.
More like a marriage cage…where the lady almost has no say.
As per ‘Oh Yes My Lord.’
Please If you are an Igbo man on my list and we plan on meeting…drop all that misogynistic tendencies at home. Flow with me as a human. Because we were first humans before too much power was bestowed on men.
Again, flow with me as a human.💕
And YES, I am an Igbo lady writing this.
I only shared my Personal Experience. It might be different from yours.
25 Comments
George
November 5, 2019 at 4:59 pmEmmanuela in as much as I respect your personal veiws . I sincerely do not agree with you . Igbo holds there culture in high esteem even though they communicate in English more than every other tribe. Apart from going to school they are the most traveled tribe and that bestows another type of informal education that is not acquired in the class room. Humility can be exhibited individually but cannot be classified as a tribe thing. Permit me to ask where were you born and where did you grow up ?
Oliver Ogbonna
November 7, 2019 at 5:59 amYou may have to go to the Hausa/Fulani where your value ends in kitchen and bedroom.
A.D wise
November 7, 2019 at 7:49 amoliver or whatever is ur name, is Hausa Fulani your problem, did the girl says she is Hausa Fulani, the girl is an iyamiri girl. Is it bcos she said the truth pls. go and face ur problem
Iyke
November 5, 2019 at 8:38 pmWell, you said it’s your personal experience but i think you have an attitude.
So with such an attitude igbo guys doesn’t care about what you think about them.
Duke
November 5, 2019 at 9:37 pmEmmanuella, let me begin to cancel your mentality about Igbo men. Those you met are ones in cadre. You haven’t met a developed Igbo man. My kind deed advise to you is to retrace your steps. Igbo men are jewel to non Igbo speaking ladies. There is nothing wrong in sending an Igbo man or a man message but it depends on your approach to him.
Philip
November 5, 2019 at 11:49 pmEphesians 5 answers that
bukaT
November 6, 2019 at 1:07 amGo get ur self a husband instead of talking shit online…
Saviour
November 6, 2019 at 6:00 amIt’s your thing, and it’s based on the class of ibo men you have come in contact with, but, they are far more than that. There are some polished and classified ibo men that will sweep you off your feet when you meet them.
Ritzy
November 6, 2019 at 6:18 amAnd who give a flying fuck about your feelings…
Mind how you condemn Igbos..
Tochukwu Eruokwu
November 6, 2019 at 9:57 amYou want a houseboy. You don’t respect a man yet when he comes for your hand in marriage, you sit there like a plucked chicken while your family more milk him dry with every lousy excuse. You don’t even know the meaning of misogyny. Marriage is not about love. It’s about respect. If it’s all about love your family will not be bargaining for high bride prize. You can rightly be accused of misandry.
kingsley nna
November 6, 2019 at 10:21 amThis girl is some sort of illusion or mental issue.Your upbringing is your problem.
Kevin
November 6, 2019 at 11:16 amI think she has some spiritual problem that spiritual attention.
Francisphil Echezona
November 6, 2019 at 12:28 pmI don’t think you bore DNA of an Igbo man ask your mum questions, and find out the truth or better work on your attitude.
Michael
November 6, 2019 at 1:54 pmmy sister, you are not in the place for what you are looking for, maybe you are in ajegunle,
Michael
November 6, 2019 at 2:20 pmYou have a right of opinion Madame, and I think the responses so far are enough for you to ponder, except that I do not subscribe to the ones that tend to be abusive.
I think the problem is the people you surrounded yourself with while growing up and you never really lived with your people long enough to understand the culture.
I am Igbo, married to Yoruba. I know many envy my wife seeing how well she is cared for, but they will rather remain single than marry Igbo themselves. Y. They were brought up with so much misinformation about the Igbo. One of them used to think we Igbo’s eat human flesh. You say you are Igbo right? do you eat human flesh?
chris
November 6, 2019 at 4:36 pmI don’t think the people you say that you have met is igbo men. And you sound too proud of yourself. Work on your pride first before thinking of hangout with an igbo man
Ifeanyi
November 6, 2019 at 7:44 pmBabe I love this piece! Your duty to your husband is to obey him while he in-turn, loves you. Then if you need a messenger, get a girl. My advice shaw!
Anyaoji
November 7, 2019 at 5:56 amYou have a personality problem and it is affecting your psych and Sense of decorum. Blaming all Igbo men for your failed relationships which is as a result of your unguided pragmatism should really be the list I expected from you. Go learn how to be a cultured woman yourself then get on with men not boys. Cheers.
emeka
November 7, 2019 at 6:17 amis a pity ,is ur parents fault jus try it in the north by written this nonsense efulefu and see what will happen to u!!
empathy
November 7, 2019 at 11:43 amPeople like you don’t read bible at all . You women should work severely on your pride be for it consumes you. Igbo men are the most lovely being on earth. Just give him the respect and you will see yourself in paradise.
Eze, Vitus
November 24, 2019 at 2:16 pmYou first need to be educated and cultured before I’ll engage you. And kindly be noted that communicating in English doesn’t prove you’re educated.
eloka ransome
November 7, 2019 at 5:14 pmhmm,I think this lady is an issue from paternity fraud…her mom should councel her on the duties of a woman!!!OMG what if she reads the role of a woman in the bible how will she feel,I THINK SHE SHE COULD CALL GOD A MISO…OR A PATRIARCHAL MAN.
Steven
November 7, 2019 at 10:10 pmI think you meant borne and brought up outside igbo land., we are the best among others.
Obodo
November 8, 2019 at 4:54 amHmmm. Its quite unfortunate for you. I think you rather misjudged ibo men. Ibo are very caring people. An ibo would rather wear rag and ensures that his wife and kids look good. An ibo man can wash his wife’s undies. An ibo man can pay for the fees of his wife while he is not schooled. Its unfortunate people you surround yourself with. I know many a lady that craves to marry an ibo man. I made my neighbor’s start helping their wife’s with chores. How about that for an ibo man?
largestwil
November 9, 2019 at 6:09 pmYou said you have met lots of Igbo men right? If I may ask where exactly have you been meeting them? in your brothel room right? and you expect such men to worship you after the bulala? Ashawo kobo kobo.