Hi Guys, Missed Deedee?
Sorry, I have had a lot on my plate of late; from work to events coverage to networking, to even re-branding and socializing. I’ve been everywhere. You know that feeling you get when you intend to take your blog to another level and then as the lone ranger that you are, you need to do all the work by yourself.
Apologies for not dropping a lot of posts, I hope to work on being consistent going forward, dropping my witty gists as it’s HOT!.
I almost missed this email that dropped into my box last week, but surfing through the mail box this morning, I sauntered on the email by Joshua.
Interesting as it was, I should have responded to Josh like almost immediately, but I felt it would be better if I drop this for my blog readers so they could relate and advise as appropriate.
I stumbled on your blog when I read your comments on the naijasinglegirls blog and ever since I have been visiting.
Amazing work you are doing here, and I’m sure you will get better with time. It’s so queer seeing a guy blog about relationships in a niche where you think, ladies are very good at. Kudos! ( Thank you Josh! I hope to get better with my delivery)
That said, I will make this post as short as possible, However I think it is key if I told you about the beginning before jumping into the middle and then the end.
I am a 26 years old engineer, working on one of the oil firms in the Country, My better part of the year is spent offshore (I spend 3 months off shore, and then come to onshore – Port Harcourt for my 3 weeks break). My busy schedule as made me non-sociable. Not that I can’t/don’t socialize but really, my busy lifestyle has gotten the better of me.
Last Month, I was just sitting bored in my office and decided to surf through hashtags on Instagram, there was this particular one #beautifulnigerians where I stumbled on a picture of one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever seen, Danie. Quickly, I slid into her DM and complimented her beauty, to my surprise she responded gratefully.
By that time I was already thinking of what to say, I introduced myself and I asked her questions.
Danie is a Beauty consultant and a blogger. It was fun from the first.
I continued ‘sliding’ and chatting. Her responses were friendly and accommodating.
We started chatting regularly and I realized that both of us, had huge dreams, she loves what I like, and then she is very witty and sensitive. I realized that I couldn’t get enough of our chat. We continued chatting everyday for a month before I realized that each day without her chat translates to a boring day for me.
From Instagram, we exchanged numbers and moved to WhatsApp, I started calling her, she starting calling back. Within two months, we had talked about big dreams, and awesome ambitions. We usually make each other laugh when we are both bored with work.
The third month of our InstaChatting, and Whatsapping, I realized I was beginning to feel a strong connection between us. I will wake up in the morning and the first thing that comes to mind is Danie!
Butterflies all up in my stomach, by butterflies, I mean ‘wild nauseating feeling’ and a ‘rush of adrenaline’ making my heart beat in heavy spasms. There was something different about our conversation that makes me look forward to chatting with her through out the day.
We decided to take it a step further, Skype videos. It was an amazing feeling ever for me and then she confessed she liked me from the onset.
At the fourth month, I could not bear the thought of not having her chat with me everyday of the week. I voiced out my feelings and told her about my concerns at this our social media togetherness.
To my surprise, she talked of same too, that she was beginning to like me very much and then she looks forward to our chats and skype videos everyday.
Our last skype video lasted over 4 hours. Crazy, yea? I could really sense something special happening.
Deedee, I think I am in love with Danie! Funny right!? I told my colleagues and friends about this and I find their conclusions confusing. While some say it is right to fall in love on social media, some spelt that it could the beginning of my doom!
I told Danie about the way I feel anyway, and she responded in the affirmative too. But here lies my confusion, my feelings are sane, my thoughts well aligned and I know I feel happy chatting with her and all.
But can we fall in love through the social media? Is online dating really real? I have seen a lot of stories online but I just need to be understood by the 21st century young, single and eligible men out there!
I am confused Deedee. Please help!
Family?, what do you think? What has experience thought you? What advice do you have for Josh! I know you all have stuffs locked up inside to say to this email.
Pray tell, advise by dropping your comments below.
Yours in Love