Ways You Can Keep Your Relationship Sexual Even After Years Together
When we first start dating someone new, everything about them is exciting. The way they hold your hand, the way they look into your eyes, the way they look in those jeans, the way they move… everything about them just turns you on and you think that it’s going to be this way forever. That 10 years down the line you’re still going to be madly in love and ready to rip each other’s clothes off any chance you get.
Alas, that is not often the case. You get busy with work, then you get distracted with kids and before you know it you stop surprising your partner with sexy outfits and they stop taking you out on dates. Soon enough your partner is staying in the office working late again and you’re left to wonder if they’re cheating on you since you can’t even remember the last time you had sex!
It doesn’t have to be this way, so don’t panic! Even if you haven’t had sex in months, not all is lost and you can certainly find your way back again. Here are a few ways how to keep your relationship sexual.
Step Away From Reality
Consider the reason why you’re not having sex with your partner. Perhaps you’re waiting for them to make the move, but do you even feel sexual yourself? Sometimes we just need to get ourselves turned on first, and one of the safest ways to do that is through VR porn.
Unlike regular porn, here you can choose any scenario you want and act it out as if you were actually there and the realistic feel is a welcome change to simply staring at your screen. This is also a place where you can’t be judged for your desires and you are free to experiment with absolutely anything and anyone, regardless of what kinky fetishes you may have! So if you’re not reconnecting with your partner because they’re not into the same things as you sexually, then VR porn could be a great solution for the both of you!
Many people say that after masturbating in virtual reality, they feel more sexually attracted to their partner, so it’s definitely worth a try, all you need is a pair of goggles and a phone.
Never Stop Learning And Experimenting
If you’ve been doing the same routine every week for the last 5 years, then it’s no surprise that your sex life can feel dull and boring and can decline in frequency. People need variety in order to feel excited about something, so if your partner isn’t taking the initiative, then it’s up to you to take charge.
Why not take an online sex course? If you’ve been stuck in a routine, it can be hard to think of new things to do, which is where sexual training can be a true blessing. Some people may be a bit embarrassed to do this, but this can really breathe new life into your relationship and if your partner agrees to watch some with you, then you both can benefit from the results!
Also, try experimenting in the bedroom, bring in some sex toys, re-enact your favourite sexual scenarios from films or read erotica out loud to each other. There are so many things that you can do!
Don’t Forget To Communicate
Communication really is the key to a successful relationship, whether you’ve been together for 5 weeks or 15 years. If you’re not satisfied with your love life, then talk to your partner about it! Just make sure to do it in a nice way, without judgement or criticism, and perhaps together you can come up with a plan that works for both of you.
Don’t feel confident enough to express yourself? Perhaps seeking the help of a relationship counsellor may be the way to go. They can help you dig deep into the root of the problem and ask questions that you possibly hadn’t considered asking before.
Schedule Alone Time
Scheduling sex in your diaries may not sound like the sexiest thing in the world, but if you’re still into each other but simply too busy to have sex because of a hectic work calendar, then this could be an easy solution to your problem!
Treat the event like any other – you’re not allowed to come up with excuses not to make it and always make sure to be on time and dressed nicely. Too often we get so used to having the other person around all the time that we forget to put the effort in. So go buy some sexy lingerie, book a nice restaurant and prepare your house for later with mood lighting, candles, champagne and anything else that gets you excited!