I am a broken young woman who has loved and left reeling in hurt and disappointment. I am having a lot of difficulty in trusting my husband again.
This is my story:
I fell in love with him when I was 17. We were from the same area but he wasn’t brought up there just like me.
I came back home from Port Harcourt in 2009 after my WAEC examination. We moved to our own house in 2010, still the same town but different area. Some months later, he moved to their family house. The house was just beside ours.
I am a very private person; shy and always love to spend time indoor – the type Yorubas will call OMO GET INSIDE, so I didn’t care when I heard we had a new neighbour, not knowing that the new neighbour would be the one to transform my life forever.
The following day I saw his sisters, I was still looking at his sisters when he came out of the house with his friends.
Immediately I saw him I was lost in thought and couldn’t take my eyes off him.
I guessed my Mom must have noticed the attraction then she shouted angrily at me;
“You better continue what you are doing and stop this nonsense”
That was the saving grace that day I first saw him. I couldn’t just take my off Dekunle (not real name)
That was it for me! Love at first sight!
As days flew by, I felt more attracted to him. I always think about the face, the beautiful features, but the problem was I couldn’t talk to him because I was always with my parents and they were strict.
As luck would have it, my mom sent me to fetch water one day from the well was beside their house. I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.
I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.
His body was beautiful and well structured, six packs, smooth skin, curly hair, I just couldn’t stop staring at him until he looked up and caught me staring.
His eyes were beautiful, I would not lie.
Embarrassed that he caught me staring, I quickly walked away but I was happy he noticed me. The next day my parents were out to work, I was told to fetch water before they return.
In a bid to get to see him again, I quickly tidied up the house and went to the well to fetch water. On my way there, I heard a whistle and I looked in the direction.
He was looking through his window and caught me staring at him again. Embarrassed the second time that he may have noticed that I have a thing for him, I took out my phone and played ” E no easy oh” by Psquare, to calm my already fast beating heart and anxious mind, I concentrated on fetching the water.
In order to get my attention fully, he also came out with buckets to fetch water. My heart started beating fast and I couldn’t focus on fetching water. He came closer and said;
“E no easy but they are making money”
I didn’t say anything I just smiled. He then helped me with the water. I was however too shy and lovestruck to talk to him.
The next day, I saw him by his window again and this time, it was like he was actually waiting for me to come around, he signaled at me to come closer to his window. I moved closer anxious to hear his voice again and look into his eyes. We got properly acquainted and I felt immense happiness talking to him.
That moment I knew I was in love with him.
That spot became our rendezvous spot; His window.
We later extended it to going to the beach together in order to avoid the prying eyes of my parents since they have started to notice how close we were.
Remember I was 17 years old, very young!
After discovering our lovey-dovey affair, my parents decided to lock me in the house and seize my phone to deny me from all sort of communication with Dekunle. However as fate would have it, I heard him passing by one day, so I quickly opened my window, he was happy when he saw me and asked y my phone has been off.
We later agreed that he would be sneaking to my house at night so we could get to know each other more and water the flower of our newly planted love seed.
After sometime, my parents became suspicious of the late night frolicking and he decided to man up. He started coming to my parent’s house to buy groceries, since my mom sells. He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my
He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my parents’ heart warmed towards him.
Naturally, he did not ask me out, we just started dating from the first day. He knew what I felt for him was so strong and decided to roll with the tide. I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.
I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.
After we got really close, I discovered that he was studying accounting at the University, he encouraged me to further my studies but I felt insecure.
I thought the distance will cause havoc so when my mom obtained d jamb form for me then, I blew up the exam because I didn’t want to go to school yet. I wanted to get closer to him.
I wanted to get closer to him. later on, I started seeing him with female folks, I got so jealous so I decided to go to school like he wanted so I got admitted into a college.
I was in my second year in the College in 2014 when he proposed to me and I said YES! The feeling was out of this world really, a man I loved with all my heart finally asking me to be his wife. The feeling was just out of this world.
Then he gave me a condition that I must be able to read in Arabic before I could be his wife. there’s no way I could go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there so I told him I will try. I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus
No WAY! How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to
How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to jeopardize our new level of relationship.
I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus flings.
I felt inferior; like I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus fling because I felt really bad that I so much loved him and he shouldn’t have given me conditions in our relationship.
He noticed I changed so he lifted the condition with the promise that when we get married, he will teach me Arabic.
That settled, we then planned to inform our parents about our intended Union.
He told his parents and later told mine. His parents refused because they wanted him to marry someone that’s from their town.
My parents, on the other hand, thought that I still needed time to plan my future and learn a lot about life so they said NO as well.
Then the pressure started.
It got so high to the point that we decided that when we were done with school, I will get pregnant for him and we will now announce my pregnancy so that we can have their blessings and then properly get married.
Then Pregnancy happened!
We were shocked, I was in my final year; a few months to my exams. He was done with school and job hunting, and I could not even think about the idea of nursing a baby without him having a job. I was scared stiff that I would have to depend on him for everything. We were both not ready for the baby.
The thought of things not going according to plans bothered me so much that it almost affected my final exams.
We then decided that I won’t have the BABY!!
( to be continued)