Whenever people are asked how do you know when you are in love, they give a random and yet vague answer like “You’ll just know.”
Have you ever wondered why can’t anyone seem to accurately describe what being in love feels like?
For you, is it hard to tell whether you’re just experiencing fiery passion or you’ve truly fallen for someone?. If it is, then this article is for you.
I’ve put out this guide because I know how less than enthused you may feel by vague responses like “you will just know”. To be honest, it seems like a cop-out.
If you’ve never been in love before, it can be hard to know what you’re feeling for someone. Oftentimes, love starts as affection and grows, others times it’s intense and passionate then develops into something more comfortable and calming.
Here’s a secret: Love is strange. It’s wild, uncontrollable, and can happen totally by accident when you least expect it. If you read anything on this list and think, “Hmmm, weird…” just admit it already, you might be in love.
When you’re beginning to fall in love with someone, the symptoms can feel similar. That’s what makes it so hard to differentiate between love and like, or even infatuation. But in the few minutes of reading this article,
I’ll take you through some really clear signs that will let you know you’re not just going through some phase with a new bae, but that this time it might actually be different.
When you start falling for someone, the feelings can get really intense and there’s a sense of excitement that’s hard to describe with words. You might finally be in love. Of course, if you’re thinking and talking about the person non-stop, or you’re already envisioning a future with them, you may suspect you’re in love. Still, those signals don’t always indicate that it’s the real thing. After all, in the beginning, your excitement around this new relationship could cloud your ability to see whether there’s real potential for a long-term relationship.
- 1 How do you know you are in love? Do you really know?
- 2 How Do You Know You Are In Love? Here are the real signs (some call it ‘symptoms’)
- 2.1 1. You are zealous to check your phone every few seconds
- 2.2 2. You got this person literally on your mind, all the time!
- 2.3 3. Your constant happiness becomes unexplainable
- 2.4 4. The little jealousy though…
- 2.5 5. Thoughts about your EX disappears
- 2.6 6. You are eager to introduce him/ her to your family and friends
- 2.7 7. You read, scroll, and re-read his/her text messages
- 2.8 8. Everything feels new and exciting
- 2.9 9. Everything reminds you of him/her
- 2.10 10. You become more tender towards them
- 2.11 11. You find yourself always talking about him/her
- 3 How Do You Know You Are In Love? Some other signs
How do you know you are in love? Do you really know?
There are as many ways to love and kinds of love as there are people to love in this world, and no two people experience it in quite the same way. But if you have strong feelings for someone and you’re not sure if it’s love, lust, or something else there are a few common signs (some might even call them symptoms) to look out for.
Even if you’ve never said the “l-word” to him, even if you’re not even together, even if you’ve made up your mind that you would never fall in love with him… there’s a chance you might have gone and fallen in love anyway.
The mistake many people make is the thrill they feel early in a relationship to signal that they’re in love. The lightning bolt strikes, and suddenly, you feel like you can’t get enough of that person. This does not totally help you on how do you know you are in love does it? Being in love goes beyond the early thrills and surge of the heart, there’s more.
If that spark you feel early one in the relationship stays alive in some form, the high is bound to come down somewhat. And when that happens, if you feel safe with that person, there’s a good chance you may be in love.
How Do You Know You Are In Love? Here are the real signs (some call it ‘symptoms’)
If you are guilty of the signs below, and you are asking how do you know you are in love? Look no further, you are totally in love!
1. You are zealous to check your phone every few seconds
You are not checking your phone to get the latest news from any Naija news portal or Live scores update. Nah.
At ten seconds interval, you’re checking to make sure your volume is still on, or you still have service Or that you haven’t missed any calls. (From him or her, definitely)
Or that you haven’t missed any text messages from him/her
If you’re glancing at your phone all the time, or if the sound of your phone going off sends a tingle down your spine and has you lunging for your purse, then you might be fanning the flames of love.
2. You got this person literally on your mind, all the time!
I can personally tell you that this one will surely happen when you are truly in love with someone. I met my first love during my tour to Enugu state. And I lived in Lagos. Although we talked through Skype and other social media platforms but she was always on my mind; everywhere I went and in everything I did.
When you’re in love, this person is always on your mind, but it isn’t overwhelming!
When you like someone, you can brush it off and think of other things as you go about your day. Haven’t you seen it where you went to ShopRite with the intention of buying something for yourself and then end up buying something for your partner too?
I don’t care for how long you’ve been unsure of the love you have for her, When you’re in love, your partner is always on your mind. That’s it! Undoubted.
3. Your constant happiness becomes unexplainable
It’s a special kind of happiness you’ve never experienced before. And it’s beautiful, you can’t even help it. Things that might have annoyed you or brought your mood down before don’t seem to bother you at all now. All of a sudden you feel giddy and lighthearted for no apparent reason at all.
And the best part is the smile on your face comes from a place within. It’s like you’re a different person. It’s as if there’s a ray of sunshine splashing across your face.
The Nigerian famous afrobeat singer, Joeboy in his latest release ‘Beginning’ explains this sign so well.
4. The little jealousy though…
While Jealousy becomes dangerous when you start obsessing over what your partner’s doing, a little bit of it is simply natural.
But when you do stuff like look through their phone without them knowing… that is just out of it.
A little jealousy is understandable because you want your partner to be only exclusive to you. But the toxic behaviour is when you go out of your way to find out what your partner’s doing as it may give a signal that you are in a bad relationship.
5. Thoughts about your EX disappears
Isn’t it a crazy experience? You never thought you’d see the day where he or she is truly gone from your thoughts, but now they are. Why? because someone else has taken over your thoughts. Someone you’ve newly fallen in love with.
So You might have gone weeks where every morning you wake up and your first thought is wondering whether you could fit your ex inside a blender.
You might have missed him or completely hated his guts with a burning passion that could break a portrait in your house.
But now, You actually pretty much don’t care anymore. You don’t fixate on your anger for the guy who screwed you over. You almost feel a sense of indifference.
Then we are talking about real love.
6. You are eager to introduce him/ her to your family and friends
If you’re introducing your partner to your family and friends, it’s usually because you genuinely want a long-lasting relationship with them. You want to introduce them to your family and friends with the hope that they’ll really like them because it would hurt you if they didn’t.
Above all, When you’re really into your relationship, you want to bring your partner into all aspects of your life.
7. You read, scroll, and re-read his/her text messages
This is an undeniable one. It happens most especially when it is your first time falling in love. When she sends you a text, you often smile and read it a couple times just for good measure.
As you’re someone that regularly deletes your emails and texts, you’re the total opposite when it comes to someone you truly love. Why? Because his texts literally brighten your day and make you smile from ear to ear.
You keep the entire texting conversation you have with him/her. Isn’t it?
Feeling down? All you have to do is re-read the conversation you had with him a few days ago to put a wide smile on your face again.
8. Everything feels new and exciting
When you’re in love, the basis of your perception changes. I compare it to a feeling of being really awake and excited.
When you’re in love, you’re excited to do things you’ve already done a million times before, just with your partner this time. You’d even be willing to sit through four hours of a football match with him, even if you hate sports.
Everything feels new and exciting when you are with the person you’re in love with because love sparks a new change in you.
They’re the first ones you think of when you see a romantic movie preview or when you’re planning to make a quick trip to the nearest fast food place. And I bet they are the first ones you think of when reading articles like this, too!
I caught you.
9. Everything reminds you of him/her
This is just a strange feeling you can’t help. He or she just pops into your head at the most random times. When you’re shopping around at Bed, Bath & Beyond and can’t help but wish he was there choosing random pillows…we are talking about love.
When you’re walking around, see a Starbucks and wish he was there with you…that’s it!
No matter what, everywhere you go, you think of him or her.
10. You become more tender towards them
And no, I’m not talking about If you’re completely repulsed by them because then, you’re clearly not in love.
simply holding hands or turning your cuddling into an intense makeout session indicates how more you feel affectionate towards him or her.
Don’t be worried about feeling you are all over them. When you’re in love, you’re obviously attracted to your partner, so it’s only natural that you want to be all over them.
11. You find yourself always talking about him/her
It doesn’t matter who you’re talking to. You could be talking to the your kid sister, the lady who does your hair in the salon, or your mom, or the cashier at the grocery store and he’ll still come up the conversation. Yeah?
Take note. If they’re tired of hearing about him, that’s a dead giveaway that you’re “guilty” of this symptom.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be intentional. Someone says or does something that just reminds you of him and before you even realize it you’re talking about him.
Plus, you can’t stop bringing him up around your friends – just like I have mentioned earlier.
How Do You Know You Are In Love? Some other signs
- You are always ready to oppose whenever someone says something bad about them.
Love naturally makes you want to protect someone. It’s like when you have a relative and you can say negative things about them, but when someone else says something it’s super offensive. When you’re in love with someone you’ll defend them no matter what!
- In the nest of love, when you are annoyed with him but still love him, You are almost ready to say something like “I love you, but I don’t like you right now,”
When He annoys the hell out of you, but you still want to be around him, it is another sign that you in love.
- You regularly catch yourself doing deep dives of his Instagram wall and other social media platform of his. you know the fun part of it? you aren’t even scared of accidentally liking a photo, because you’re past the point of feeling like you’ll freak him out if you do.
- When he’s sad, you’re genuinely sad too. You feel his pain and he feels yours. You’re in love, baby!
- You’re actually entertained by his cute AF childhood and throwback photos. And you actually like listening to his long, rambly stories. Just hanging out and talking about anything is fun.
- Lastly, one sign of love and a strong relationship is when you put them as a first person to call when something good happens in your life or, perhaps even more importantly, when something bad happens to you.
If by now, You are still not sure if you are in love with him/her, then it means there was never chemistry. All these signs have been proven in many ways and have answered the question of “how do you know when you are in love“.
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Did you fall in love in a completely different way? Feel free to share your experience via the comment box!