We all love relationship stories with an happy ending, yea? Some of us also love the relationship stories that has to do with understanding the needful, principles relating to love and loving and dealing with the intricacies seamlessly. The love story I am about to share below reeks of everything love from a level that is as unique as predestined.
I have always wondered how social media love that led to marriage looks like, and I wanted to meet a personality who would have passed through that process and bring him right into the blog.
This amazing story will break your social media love barriers and shake your loving foundation that reeks of skepticism. It would enlighten of the fact that love is not just the ‘Love of Feelings’.
We caught up with popular relationship blogger, author and CEO of sweetlovemessages.com, Olalekan Adebumiti whose engagement ‘themed’ classroom pictures went viral last month, and he relayed his love story and eventual wedding to his hearthrob, beautiful Wuraola Adebumiti with us.
Raises Mic to Olalekan’s mouth and he started with how he met his love:
We met through a friend – virtually.
I saw a lovely post on a friend’s website and I requested for the writer’s contact. I pulled a call through and it was a magical moment. She told me about a friend of hers (who is now my wife) during the discourse, a nurse and working in Ondo state. Sincerely, I felt embarrassed by that introduction.
To me, I didn’t expect to meet someone I’d get married to from that kind of a setting. I just agreed to meet her so I would be a mentor to her, or something close…
I got the rhythmical shock of my life when we started chatting that same night! You know that feeling, right?
We asked him how his first impression of his wife was, and enthusiastically, he continued:
I saw this down-to-earth bae!
I am not into many ladies, anyways. But when I see a lady that’s down-to-earth my shadow can tell!
Chai, The guy was so confident! I can’t forget what he told me the first day we chatted… ‘’Wura, I can be uncontrollably romantic… Don’t be carried away and fall in love with me o’’.
Tahr! What is this one feeling like! I felt embarrassed, you know. And I made up my mind to prove to him that I’m different… which I did.
Okay, make I no lie, I later fell for him small. Just small.
We popped the ‘Love at First Sight question to Lekan and it was a love at first chat answer!
No. It was love at first Chat.
I sink in awe when I talk with “romantically intelligent” ladies. Hey single and searching lady, don’t come near me again! I’m no more sinking in awe… Already sank with her!
The whole chat we had for the very first day we started talking until some days into the relationship is saved somewhere online – don’t ask for it. It will be in our next book.
Wow! Who says Love is not a beautiful thing!
We all get attracted one way or the other, don’t we?
She was romantically crazy. A few minutes on her Facebook wall was all I needed to tell of her craziness!
I was attracted by her motherly nature – you know what that is, right? And the fact that she makes me wanna do more. No, not your kind of more! I meant “She is an inspiration to do more – more work, of course!
Not to be left out of this romantic question, Wuraola quipped in
We started dating before we met at all so all that attracted me were inner qualities. One of which was that he’s open…
My husband is sincere to a fault. Then he’s intelligent, fluent, empathetic, purposeful, vision minded and most importantly, a lover of God.
Aww… how can I leave out this attractive part of him? He’s a crazy comedian. My husband jokes with everything… Very “unserious” somebody like that.
We all have a reason for saying ‘YES’ to that proposal question. However, when we checked out how and when Lekan asked Wura out, Wura responded on how he asked her out:
Well, not ‘ask out’ per se. We were already into each other but he officially asked 12 days after we started talking, if I was ready to walk the walk with him.
The walk wey we don start teytey.
Issues would always crop in one way or the other, however what is important is how partners deal and here is what Lekan had to say about this:
We really didn’t have any issue with each other except for some family issues we couldn’t avoid when we were planning the wedding.
We would “angry them out” sometimes and let it cool off some moments later.
Talking about the moment he proposed Olalekan told us:
Let me say it was after two to three days we started talking.
I write and speak on relationships and so knew I got what I wanted as soon as we started talking.
It was my second relationship. The first lady died, 3 years of relationship and it was so grieving.
I made sure I told her everything about me – I mean everything! There was nothing I did in the past that I didn’t tell her, no matter how bad it was. She did the same. And we were good to go.
Do not kiss and tell, do you know they dated for 8 months? Wow!!
Lekan revealed this when he said:
We started talking on the 10th of January, 2016 and got married on the 20th of August, 2016.
Wuraola obviously wasn’t a fan of the glitz, glamour and razzmatazz of social media hype associated with engagement and she affirmed that when she said:
There was no formal proposal like we see on social media… You know, putting up a surprise party where I would find a ring in my drink or somewhere in the atmosphere. No. Everything just happened spontaneously.
I can’t even remember him “toasting” me
I gave him my love because he appeared to be the one I had been waiting for.
He’s intelligent, humble, loving… And the fact that he’s a writer who majors on love was a quick trap for me. I naturally am attracted to writers. Then it was sealed when I discovered we were traveling the same way…
We have similar dreams and passions, in fact there was this particular idea I had well penned down in my notebook; it was like a mystery when he told me about his, I would have argued he saw my book if he had been to my place. It was so exact! I knew with him, I would have the purposeful marriage I’ve always desired.
We would not leave these love birds without asking them the very essence of DeedeesWeddings – What is your definition of love?
Now, this question is one of those I find most difficult to answer. I don’t have a straight definition of love, but I’ll just say, Love is beyond feelings. Love is…I don’t know… It’s just Love.
For Lekan, the love doctor, he had his definition as expected:
Like many people will say… Love is relative! You can only define love from the values you hold about life.
Ask me this question tomorrow and I will give another definition. To say some… “Love is vast! Love is a way of life. Love is a bundle of selfless acts towards a conceived end. Love is Bae.” Lol.
He finally had this advice for all prospective lovers, current and engaged lovers:
The success of your relationship is largely dependent on all areas of your life: if you would enjoy your relationship, work on every other area of your life.
You know why? Many people go into relationships on the basis of love and they end them by finding faults in their partners. It takes “feelings” to start a relationship but more than that to make it work.
If you will have a successful relationship, your personal life will be the determinant.
I recommend my book, Relationship Compatibility Test for all singles.
Wuraola: A lot… A lot… In fact, we’re presently on a book titled…eerrrm…okay, no title yet. It’s our love story. It’s in form of a diary with a whole lots of lessons to learn. It should have been out, no thanks to procrastination. I would recommend that book for every single… It’s loaded.
It’s important to know that the growth of love is not automatic. It requires work. Love needs to be nurtured to grow. Like a seed which needs water, sunlight, manure and the likes to come out great, love takes mutual commitment, sincerity, sacrifices and… you know them, to flourish.
On behalf of the Deedee’s Wedding Team, we dedicate this amazing Rachel Platten song to you and your wife! Enjoy!
Have a funfilled-children laden, more emoti-writing married life, Lekan and Wura!
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