A new neighbour has just moved into the apartment down the hall. You’ve had a few conversations with them and you’ve noticed how funny and cute they are. Soon, you realize that you can’t stop thinking about them! You think you might even be in love!
What many people don’t realize, however, is that there is a difference between love and an obsession. Some people claim to be in love — but sometimes that love is just an unhealthy obsession with the other person!
So, before you start claiming to be in love with your new neighbour — ask yourself if it is love or is it an obsession.
Natural development of a relationship
If you’ve just met someone and can’t get them off of your mind, you’re not in love yet! A healthy, loving relationship needs to develop naturally. When people are feeling anxious or insecure in a relationship, they may try to act too quickly. Someone obsessed with another individual might have a fear that they’ll lose that person, so they’ll do something such as proposing after only a few weeks.
When you’re in love, however, the relationship develops naturally over time. Before expressing deep, romantic feelings, both parties take the time to get to know each other. They don’t ask for a commitment until they have spent time making sure they’re compatible.
Equal give and take
In a healthy relationship, there should be an equal amount of giving and take. This means finding a balance and mutually supporting each other. In an obsessive relationship, one person will spend more time trying to please the other. Instead of acting out of love, they seek constant approval from the other person.
To develop a balanced relationship with someone, make sure to spend plenty of time communicating in ways that focus on both individuals involved. Talk about what you are both looking for in a relationship. Be willing to accept that both individuals have flaws and don’t place unfair demands on the other person. And, give each other plenty of compliments!
Individual interests and identity
In a healthy, loving relationship, both individuals maintain their interests and identity. This means they give each other space instead of needing to be together constantly. They support each other’s interests. They like spending time together, but they also do their own thing.
In an obsessive relationship, one person might feel the need to always be around the other and get jealous when the person does something that doesn’t involve them. They might make demands, such as expecting the other person to tell them where they are or making the other person tell them who they’re hanging out with. They can’t seem to get enough of the other person.
Warning signs of obsession
So if you’re in a relationship, what are some warning signs that you or your partner are obsessed with the other person? Something to keep in mind is that obsession can mirror love, but obsession comes with unnatural fears and anxieties.
In addition to the warning signs already mentioned, watch out for signs of paranoia. This includes the need to drive past the other person’s house multiple times a day to make sure they’re not with someone else or panicking if they don’t return calls right away. Another sign is the inability to focus on anything but the person. During free time, the obsessed person might constantly try to get the attention of the other person.
Getting away from obsessed partner
If you find yourself in a relationship with an obsessed partner, it can be hard to get out of it. The other person will try to do whatever they can to stay in the relationship. It might even seem like they have a spell over you; contact a witchcraft practitioner to protect yourself against powerful love obsession spells.
The first thing you’ll want to do is establish boundaries with the other person. Break up with them and let them know you’re no longer comforting communicating with them. Change the locks on your house and block them on social media. If they keep trying to contact you, you may need to get a restraining order against them.
Whenever you just meet someone and can’t stop thinking about them, you’re not in love — yet. Take the time to develop a natural relationship that is mutual between both parties before you declare yourself in love! And remember, some individuals can become obsessed with a relationship — while it might seem like love, it can be a controlling relationship.