Being in a committed relationship is hard. Being a hard-working professional and a partner is even harder. It can be difficult to find balance in your work-life and love life. Sometimes it can be hard to make your relationship last under the stress of work.
Aside from loving each other, what else can you do to stay together as a busy couple? Fear not, we’ve got you covered! Here are some things that anyone in a busy relationship can do to make the relationship last
Throw away expectations and blueprints
First thing first, one of the most common problems that couples face is expectations. Whether it’s expectations from society, your job, or each other, expectations can take their toll on the relationship.
The best way to combat this is to remember that although anyone is entitled to their opinion on you as a couple, only your opinions count. Whether you feel pressure from your families to have kids, or from your bosses to work longer hours, try to not let that get in the way of your relationship.
There is no right or wrong way to be together.
Try to schedule dates and stick to them
Whether you live together or not, being a busy, employed couple can make it hard to keep romance in the picture. Clashing schedules, long work hours, or working weekends can make it difficult to spend quality time with each other.
Busy couples need to work extra hard to keep things exciting, fun, and romantic. If you can, try to plan dates that you would both enjoy and try to stick to them. If a “date” for the two of you means a movie night, jogging together to the coffee shop, or going to dinner, then so be it.
Making time and putting in the effort goes a long way in making the relationship last.
Think about the future: Kids
As a busy working couple trying to further their careers, the topic of children can be very stressful. Talking about the future and having kids is difficult for most couples, especially for those that want to prioritize their future.
Whether you want to have kids or not, it’s important to be able to talk about it with each other. Factoring in and budgeting for things like birth control, the morning after pill, or condoms are important.
If you want children someday, but just not now, then contraceptives are a good place to start. Remember, communication, honesty, and action are key.
Relationships should not be about competition
Keeping work life and home or love life separate is necessary for a healthy relationship. If partners work in a competitive business environment, it can be easy to take that mentality home to each other. This is where problems can arise.
No matter what profession, rank, or pay grade your partner is, you need to remember that you work as a team. Allowing your competitiveness to affect the way you view your partner and your relationship, can only result in anger and hurt. Try to remember that you need to be each other’s biggest fans and not the opposing team.
The middle ground is essential
Some would say that compromise is the most important factor in a long-lasting and successful relationship. With working couples, this especially important. As a couple, individually your lives may be quite demanding and stressful.
To keep the relationship going, you need to find the time and energy for both your work and your partner. Knowing how to compromise can help. You don’t have to sacrifice your whole career for your partner, but a few small compromises from both sides is key.
Whether it’s about chores, spending, or what to have for dinner, if both parties can come to a middle ground, you’ll be all the better for it.
Find time for the bedroom
Let’s be honest, after the first couple of months of being together, sex can start to be an issue. Issues in the bedroom can affect many aspects of the relationship. As a working couple, it can be challenging to find time to be intimate with one another.
For most couples, to have a fulfilling relationship that lasts long, the bedroom needs to be a present and enjoyable part of it. Issues in the bedroom are very common can come about for many reasons. It’s important to remember that this is normal and can be solved with open communication and hard work.
Putting in the work in your bedroom and each other will reflect well on the longevity of the relationship.
Don’t forget the small things
Life can get pretty busy and it becomes very easy to take the small things for granted. Partners who have a demanding work life can find it difficult to appreciate each other in their day-to-day life. Feeling underappreciated can have a negative impact on the relationship.
This might result in feelings of resentment, anger, or depression which can cause the relationship to crumble. To avoid this from happening, try to remind yourself of all the good things your partner does for you.
If they make your coffee each morning, drive the kids to school, or have a cute laugh make sure that you notice and tell them. Being attentive and appreciating each other is essential.
Find time for yourself
How you treat your significant other is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. To have enough patience, love, and energy for anyone else, you first need to have that for yourself. As a busy, working individual most of your time will be devoted to your work.
The rest of it needs to be split evenly between your partner, family, and yourself. Outside your work, you need to have something of your own that will make you happy, fulfill you. Find a hobby, take up a class, or see a therapist. Your happiness comes first.
Relationships are hard work. Just like your profession, your personal relationships need communication, honesty, time, and effort. To make your relationship last long you need to be able to talk to your partner about your goals, wishes, and wants openly.
Putting in the work, remembering to be present, and appreciating each other is key. Taking time for both yourself and each other is essential for staying together for a long time as a busy couple.